Good article with my own two cents thrown in.
Common Adoption Myths from:
http://www.bellaonline.com/articles/art52327.aspGuest Author - Karen Ledbetter
Unfortunately, many people still hold inaccurate perceptions of the adoption process and members of the triad. Some of these myths are negative and hurtful to adoptive families, while others are plain ridiculous assumptions.
Myth: There are no babies available for adoption in the United States. Wrong! My baby is Southern born and bred, and I belong to e-mail lists where babies are welcomed into adoptive families on a regular basis!
[And both Lainey and soon to be baby boy Reid are locally grown!]Myth: Adoptees will grow up to be just like their birth parents. Not completely true. Just because a birth parent is chemically dependent does not mean a child will be. However, a child may inherit specific talents and interests from one or both birth parents. My own child inherited her beautiful singing voice and love of horses from her birth parents.
Myth: Closed adoption is better than open adoption, or vice-versa. Adoption should not be a one-size-fits all arrangement. Some families do great with open adoption, while closed adoption is better for others. Each family should choose what type of adoption is best for them, and we should all respect one another’s choices. Remember, living in this great country of ours gives us the freedom to make choices.
Myth: The wait and cost for international adoption is less than for domestic infant adoption. Not necessarily. According to statistics, both the wait and cost for international adoption can be considerably more than for domestic adoption.
[Currently China has a two year wait.]Myth: Families adopting internationally or from our country’s foster care system are rescuing children in need. It’s true that these children do need families. However, babies where birth parents are making adoption plans also need families. Adoptive parents should not be viewed as superheroes. Instead, we are all humans simply wanting to parent and, for various unique reasons, choose the adoption route. One word: respect.
Myth: Families hoping to adopt American infants of their own race are selfish. Absolutely not! There is absolutely nothing wrong with a family’s desire to raise a baby of their own race and nationality. Again, we should respect one another’s choices in adoption without questioning these choices.
Myth: Adopt, and you will become pregnant. This is ridiculous! While this does occasionally occur, this mentality suggests to me that families adopt as a reason to cure fertility. Adoption does not cure fertility, and such a suggestion is insulting to all members of the adoption triad.
Myth: Birth parents can reclaim their children at any time. Wrong! Some states do have revocation periods where a birth parent can change his/her mind about placement, but adoptive families who enter these types of adoptions, called legal risk, are fully aware and do so willingly. Most, if not all, of the contested adoptions that hit the media have problems from day one with the handling of legal documents.
[WA is 48 hours after birth OR until the Judge signs off on the paperwork terminating the birthparents' rights and responsibilities.]Myth: Open adoption may cause a child to want to live with his birth family. The opposite actually occurred in our family. At one time, my child thought life would be so much more wonderful with his birth family until he learned that their household rules and consequences for breaking the rules are the same as in our house and the same behavior would be expected regardless of which household he resided in.
Myth: Adopted children are emotionally unstable and/or grow up to be criminals. Again, another ridiculous assumption. We do not make these assumptions based on a person’s hair or eye color.
At least 20 times a day I say one of two things: "Lainey, get down!" or "Get out of there!"
The first word out of Lainey's mouth this morning was, "Book?" and she wouldn't lie still long enough for me to change her diaper until I had to given her one. Then, she wouldn't come downstairs for breakfast until she had picked out two books to bring down with her! As you can probably guess, I don't discourage her love of books in the least. 
I love pictures of Lainey with her two best friends, Ellie and Paige. My hope is that these three will be friends for a long time. We moved a lot when I was a kid and I lost touch with lots of people. I have become good friends with their Mommy's as well so I guess I'm a little selfish!
This past weekend I was invited to a Girls Weekend at Pacific Beach, about 3 hours from home. While most of the girls are avid scrapbookers, I just hung out and relaxed, started a baby blanket, and took trips down to the beach to take photos and look for sand dollars. I actually found my first sand dollar thanks to Kim who is an expert sand dollar hunter and pointed them out!
